Sometimes you manufacture scenarios and put them in your own way just to prove a point. It is as if you would rather be right than happy. When you catch yourself doing that stop and say, “This unpleasant thought is unnecessary.” Then choose one that feels better.
This thought has always made me laugh, because it is truly a no-brainier to me and and being happy is not mutually exclusive of being right. It does amaze me though how many people will go through life having to be right!
What does it get them, besides high blood pressure and and extreme stress. People get all worked up when their side of a story or their idea is not accepted as the truth. Everybody has an opinion and it is usually true to them. Politics is the perfect example. Each party takes credit for everything good that has taken place in the last ## of years, and blames the other party for everything wrong in those same years.And don’t get me started on what’s going on in this election year and who’s right or just not lying.
See, that’s what I mean. We start to blame. I’ve watched my friends get all worked up because the candidates on the other side are going to destroy the country! If one person in a country of 300 million can actually destroy us in a four year period or less, we’re already in such dire straits that there is no hope.
The truth is though, there is always hope.
The point is, if we would just agree with the person who has to be right or have no opinion , it knocks the wind out of their sails. There is nothing to debate or argue about. Nothing to defuse. And it doesn’t change your belief at all. You still believe X and they still believe Y. You have just allowed them to continue along their path without either antagonizing them or getting yourself all worked up, and it didn’t cost a thing.
Isn’t that so much easier and they don’t have a clue? Of course, if you have to try to win the “battle” by being right, that is your choice. Have at it.