I was out buying a car the other day and my salesman was a young man with a new family. Well, we were talking while I was test driving and he said, “it is what it is” to something we were talking about. Before I knew it, we were talking about living in the now, in this moment, that the past has no power over us except the power we give it. It is the past after all.
This is why I enjoy being with and talking with young people. Overall, they haven’t become entrenched in their story, because they are still making it up. They are more open to and willing to change. They don’t have as much “to lose” as older people think they do. Think being the operative word here.
Being positive even when what you are doing is tentative usually helps tip the odds in your favor. When Thomas Edison was working on inventing the light bulb he said his failures were just mistakes he eliminated in finding the correct combination that worked, all 10,000 of them!
Merton study, coming soon